Go with the flow; Take each day as it comes; Trust; Live in the moment; Be here now; Let go.
Here are just a few of the words of wisdom I’ve attempted to heed in the course of my life and my endeavour to be at peace with myself and the world.
I’d hazard a guess that ‘laid back’ isn’t a phrase that people who know me would choose to use to describe me. And unfortunately, they’d be right. How I’d love to be laid back; it’s just not in my makeup.
If you were being nice about me, you might describe me as being focussed, driven and confident. If you weren’t, you may add erratic, inconsistent and extreme. And both would be right. As much as I’d love to be zen and exude love, peace and be balanced the whole time, I happen to be someone else. And if lives had themes, and mine seems to, mine would all be about flow. And going with it (or battling against it, depending on the phase of the moon and the perceived challenge at hand).
My biggest lesson in life (so far) is about letting go. I’ve tried so hard to stay in control of my life (and the lives of others) and it’s jolly hard work. In fact it’s nigh on impossible. It’s such a relief to let go and realise that I am but a small cog in a much bigger and very beautiful show. That doesn’t mean I don’t value myself, it doesn’t mean I won’t realise my full potential and it doesn’t mean that I’ll stay in a situation that’s not healthy for me. It just means that I’m wise enough now to know that life is what life is and sometimes it brings loveliness and other times it brings things that are hard to deal with at the time.
But everything is always okay – because life just flows, regardless of whether you flow with it. It just flows. It just so happens to be a damn site easier if you stop behaving like a salmon in mating season, and turn around and go with it.
So why this post? Well, so many things in my life at the moment point to this. As much as I’d like the world to be black and white, it isn’t. And I’ve started to acknowledge the grey areas that exist. And that it’s quite okay for them to be there and for me to accept them just as they are without knowing whether they’ll eventually be black or white. Or just stay grey for the rest of their life, and possibly mine.
I’m heading up our System Rebuild Project and wow have things changed over the course of the project. Our vision remains the same, to create an agile, intuitive and robust application and introduce the new features and functionality that we’re so excited about. But how we’re getting there and what is being created changes all the time. I started out the project wanting everything to go according to our plan. Now I’m okay with things going a different way. Often when things change, they change for the better. I’m glad I’ve realised this, because what we’re now creating, as a result of working with our internal project team and our project team at John Henry, is far, far better than anything I could ever have imagined.
So if you find yourself in a situation where you want to change your plans, or change your mind or change your course. That’s fine. In the words of the sometimes controversial Kanye West “Let me know, do I still got time to grow? Things ain’t always set in stone”.
Insightful, thoughtful and beautiful – just like you x
Bless you. Thank you, Annabelle 🙂 x
Kaye this is brilliant and really resonates with me! I didn’t know you were a Kanye West Fan, you learn something new every day! 🙂
Lol… It’s just that we both love Beyonce!
This is awesome Kaye, well done. I love the salmon analogy! X
Thank you, Catharine 🙂
Kaye, love this. Look forward to meeting up with you at some point, perhaps at Shirlaws conference in November ? Sent this blog on to a client in Cayman who I knew this would resonate with.
Hi Tom, Thank you – and yes, would love to meet you too – either at the conference or when we’re both next in Edinburgh.
Love your blog Kaye, very inspiring! I resonate with what you said about being okay by things being “grey” and not black and white! I noticed for myself I feel so much more comfortable having a belief system that is black and white and being rigid and stick to it and force other people to show up black and white too 🙂 Anything that used to be outside of that structure used to throw me off balance big time (work in progress). When letting go of controlling situations and my attachments to them, life has become a moment to moment discovery! Learning to be comfortable in the unknown and understanding that I don’t need a certain situation to show up in a certain way to be more happy or relieved, less stressed or feel more okay and in control is a great lesson.Thanks for being an inspiration! xoxo
Thank you, Dani 🙂
Very inspirational and totally resonates. I’ve been tested recently on this too and whilst I was in the flow through most of the experience I still had a period of feeling stressed – would love to experience a full ‘let go’ in the moment the next time around. Will keep you posted :-).
You and me both 🙂 x